Coping With Illness and Health Issues
If your aging parent or relatives have health problems, it can be hard to know when it’s time for help. An illness, emergency situation, or changes in memory or thinking may indicate this need; but most often care needs develop gradually over time and less abruptly than initially anticipated.
Caregiver participants interviewed for this study described taking care of an elder relative as an evolving process that started slowly but eventually unfolded organically. At first, many caregivers simply provided instrumental assistance such as shopping or bill paying – as their elderly parent became more dependent, they gradually took on emotional and social support roles; finding this arrangement fulfilling yet ultimately taxing on them both personally and financially.
The Whitemans decided to bring Mildred into their home to have her closer by and build a closer relationship. Additionally, caring for Mildred in their home aimed to keep her safe and comfortable as well as prevent isolation and depression. Decision-making wasn’t an easy one for this family, but they believed it was best for their mother. However, it is important to recognize that welcoming an elderly parent into your home or providing in-home care may bring up feelings of anxiety or frustration which may manifest themselves through stubbornness or argumentativeness if planning ahead, learning about age-related issues and being patient and understanding can help overcome any challenges along the way.